There is a lot of content and conversation about the need to prepare and do your homework before you get on a sales call or into a meeting. And that’s a good thing. But like note-taking, when is too much of a good thing? When does preparation become a bad thing? What should you look out for to know when enough is enough?
One client is in the midst of starting a partner referral program with the consultants that use the software they sell. They have been to several events in the past few weeks and gotten several introductions. But instead of having the discovery conversations, they have been obsessed with having a list of all the right questions to ask.
By not having the conversations, and extensively preparing instead, are they losing out on the momentum of an opportunity? Wouldn’t it be better to know enough to know what you don’t know, and use those questions? Why wait?
Here is the problem with over preparation and why we need to be careful to balance it. Roleplaying, planning questions and answers can cause emotional involvement. We get so wrapped up in what should happen, that when it doesn’t we get thrown off. We lose the opportunity to understand what is going on with the PERSON we are interacting with because we are struggling to make things go the way we planned. Inevitably, our best laid plans won’t happen the way we want, and if it is so drilled into our heads, we are left scrambling to figure out what to do next. We forget that we are talking with a person when we are so focused on our plan.
Why does this happen? Why do we feel the need to over prepare? Is it because we are afraid that the other person will think we don’t know what we are talking about? That we don’t have it together? The need to over prepare is a symptom of a need for approval. When we need to appear smart, smooth, put together it's because our need for a certain appearance is paramount. This happens sometimes to very smart, and highly educated people. We need people to know just how smart we are, so that they will listen to us and buy.
It’s not about you.
Yes, it is good to know how to react to possible scenarios. It’s good to know something about the person you are talking with. It is bad to rely on that being the scenario and assume what we think we know is the reality.
The right amount of preparation is like knowing the plays in football. We don’t always know what the offense or defense will do, but we prepare enough to know what we will do given the play that is happening on the field. But if we are so caught up in doing the play we prepared, then the other team scores and you don’t even know it is happening. Do the best players watch a lot of tapes and practice their plays? Yes. But they do so in order to be able to know what to look for when they are on the field itself.
Proper preparation enables you to improvise, to have a meaty and meaningful conversation. Too much preparation can paralyze you. You fear taking timely action because you don’t want to make a mistake, and by not taking action, nothing happens. You lose momentum and opportunities. If you have no idea how you will use the information you get from all your preparation and research, you probably don’t need it.
So what should proper preparation look like? How much time should you spend on it? How should you use the information you learn to start an engaging conversation with a near stranger?
This is by no means a complete list, but here are a few things to get you started and thinking about how to use the what you learn to engage. This list is also assuming that you have discovered what your prospect wants to get done during your call and that you have all the people on the call that need to be there.
Notice that I started with the person first. After all, you are having the conversation with a person first and foremost, not a prospect, lead, or company.
How do you prepare? How much time do you spend on it? How do you use that information? Or do you wing it? Or maybe get flustered and frustrated when your prospects don't follow your plan? Maybe there are some invisible obstacles that are preventing you from the success you should be having?